Navigating discussions on improving sex within a relationship can indeed be a delicate endeavor. Many couples find themselves hesitant to broach the subject, fearing that acknowledging the need for improvement might imply inadequacy or fault in their current sexual and intimate practices.
In “The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover,” author David Deida recognizes and addresses these insecurities with sensitivity and compassion. Rather than approaching the topic with judgment or criticism, Deida offers a gentle invitation for couples to explore new avenues of connection and pleasure.
A significant aspect of Deida’s manual is the practice of semen retention, which might seem daunting or be unfamiliar to many men. Contrary to common beliefs, semen retention isn’t about denying pleasure but rather harnessing and conserving one’s life force energy for a more expansive and fulfilling sexual encounter, not to mention more energy for more frequent sex should this be desired. By harnessing sexual energy, men can experience non-ejaculatory orgasms, leading to heightened sensations and profound sexual experiences with the partner.
Maximizing and liberating energy through the practice of semen retention makes more life force energy available for the sexual encounter. It’s important to understand that it’s not about repressing sexual energy or the orgasm. Sexual arousal and pleasure are the kindling for awakening the body to become more alive, passionate, and connected. When energy is not expended with ejaculation, it expands throughout the whole body and can create ripples of pleasure in both partners.
There is not set about of time that has been determined to be optimal for men because of age, lifestyle, love-making styles, and other individual differences. It becomes a conscious practice of intuitively learning the ejaculation needs of the body. With practice he can learn to know when an ejaculation is truly needed, distinguishing between genuine physiological requirements and the urge to release pent-up tensions or frustrations.
Semen retention is one of several practices in this manual that offer the potential to transform one’s sex life, expanding beyond pleasure to ecstatic states of bliss and higher states of being. By retaining semen, individuals can harness this energy and channel it into their lovemaking, resulting in increased vigour, drive, and fullness of experience. This surplus of energy not only fuels the desire for more frequent sexual encounters but also allows couples to sustain intimacy for longer durations, deepening their connection and pleasure.